I’ve had lots of successes in life, which I don’t hesitate to share and celebrate with anyone who will listen. But I’ve also had many failures—in life, school, love, business, and other areas. Along with those failures come many regrets—some deep, painful ones and others that are small, grimace-worthy pinpricks of regret that are easy to shrug off. This morning, I watched a TED video by Kathyrn Shulz about the importance of not ignoring our regrets or pretending they don’t exist.

She says, “Here’s the thing: If we have goals and dreams, and we want to do our best, and if we love people and we don’t want to hurt them or lose them, we should feel pain when those things go wrong. The point isn’t to live without any regrets. The point is to not hate ourselves for having them.”

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