This week, my admissions coaching clients are finishing up their applications for graduate school. One of the most common yet surprising reaction that some of them have is, “That’s it?!” when I tell them they are ready to submit. It’s like they don’t believe me when I tell them that their essays are beautiful, concise, compelling, authentic, and ready to go. I finally figured out why so many of them seem dubious when I tell them we’re all done.
It just seems too easy.
For example, one of my clients and I just met less than a month ago, and today she and I finished editing her exquisitely written essays for Harvard Business School.
“Are you sure we’re done?” she asked me doubtfully today on our call. “It seemed too easy!”
It seemed easy because she was ready, and for the parts for which she wasn’t fully ready, she found someone who understood her strengths and weaknesses (that’s me in case you were wondering) and we made sure she was ready together. And it was actually a lot of fun too!
Like my client “K” who found it hard to believe that applying to Harvard could be so “easy,” I too was resisting some “easy” blessings that were coming my way.
When the Kickstarter campaign for my book Be Your Own Boyfriend first started, I was working like a crazy person, doing any and everything I could think of to get people to pledge to the campaign. Deep down I knew it would be successful. There was no way my fabulously dedicated team members were going to let it not be successful. However, I was still working myself to the bone, striving to meet the $10,000 finish line. At one point, I even called one of the deans of my college and broke down crying from exhaustion, discouragement, and bewilderment. How could something that matters so much to me be so difficult? I wondered to myself and to him through my tears.
Then, I just surrendered and decided I couldn’t force the Kickstarter to work. I was going to do my best without making myself and my team sick or miserable, and then I was going to surrender. To me and my team’s surprise, we found that on the days when we didn’t worry about the Kickstarter, and didn’t stress ourselves with scheming up ways to get people interested enough to pledge, we received the same number of pledges or more.
Once we did our best to market and promote the Kickstarter campaign and then let it be easy, it was just that—easy.
In 2013, I want to step out of the way and let the things that I want in my life make their way to me. I’m not going to connect being exhausted and drained with achieving my goals and getting my heart’s desires.
Whether it’s a healthy and loving relationship, selling copies of my first book, getting new clients, or developing a new course, I am going to let the things I want in my life come to me easily.