Lately, I’ve been worried about finding a venue for my book launch party. I’ve been worried that no one is going to come to my book signing in a few days. I’ve been worried about bringing in new clients, and I’ve been worried about getting more reviews of my book. Once one situation I’m worried about gets taken care of, it seems like three new things to worry about sprout up in its place. I’ve been a worry machine powered by frustrated tears!
Then I spoke to a close confidante about all the things I am worried about (and by speak, I mean choked out sentences as I cried hysterically), and after listening attentively, she gently suggested I make a God Box. As soon as I heard the phrase, I loved the idea. Being a person who enjoys making vision boards and thinking about “manifesting,” this sounded right up my alley.
You take a vessel of your choice and dedicate it as your God Box, the place where you surrender all your worries. For now, I’m using an aluminum gift box that some Godiva chocolate came in (Ooh, it even has the word “God” in it!), but I plan to upgrade to something cuter soon. When you find yourself worrying about something, you write down the issue on a slip of paper, and then you put it in the God Box. I phrase my issues not as a specific request but as what I call a “share and surrender”:
God, I am really worried about finding a venue for my book release party. I turn this issue over to you.
Once something goes in the God Box, you commit to turn the problem over to your Higher Power and to stop fretting about it. Turning it over doesn’t necessarily mean you make yourself a sweet tea and sit by the pool to read the latest issue of Cosmo (though it could mean that too). It means that you stop relying solely on your own intelligence, connections, and problem-solving and you surrender the problem to God. You trust that your Higher Power, whatever that is, has your back and will lead you to a solution to your problem.
Learning how to turn things over to God is a lesson I am constantly having to remember. I even wrote about it in my book in a part called “Act as if Everything is Already Okay.” Apparently, I had gotten out of touch with my own teachings (as often happens when I start overthinking things) and had to be led back by someone who knows and loves me.
So far, I am loving my God Box. As far as I can remember (because I am constantly putting things in there), each issue that I have surrendered to the God Box has been peacefully and easily resolved fairly quickly. And more importantly, I’ve stopped making myself sick and exhausted with worry about the myriad of things on my mind. I still feel tempted to start researching, ruminating, and fretting about the things I’ve surrendered to the God Box, but for the most part, I am able to catch myself and get back to focusing on the task at hand.
In case you are wondering how all the God Box worries got resolved, I’ll share how some things are working out and shaping up. For the book release party venue, I simply reached out to a contact I have and was able to secure a tentative venue. It’s free, well located, and I know my mom, who is the world’s best decorator, will make sure it looks fabulous. I visited the bookstore that I have my upcoming signing at, and the manager told me that they are putting me right by the front door so it doesn’t matter how many people come; every single customer will see me and have to face me on their way out! Things are still pretty quiet on the individual client front, but this week, I signed on an Ivy League institution as the first customers of the class I am creating on applying to Harvard Kennedy School, which is a new experience for me and great social proof for others who are considering taking it. The reviews for my book are coming in very slowly but today I received a long, glowing one from a twentysomething in the Philippines, which made my day. On top of all that, I got asked to be a writer for Huffington Post and just got invited to be the grand opening storyteller for an Improv Comedy theater opening in Houston. I am a huge fan of improv and standup comedy so to be asked to perform and do a booksigning at a grand opening in Houston warms my heart and thrills my soul. I share these things to express my gratitude to all of you for reading these essays, opening my emails, and supporting me with your comments, email responses, book purchases, and working with me. I’m thankful to God for obliterating my worries when I turn them over, and I’m thankful for friends who remind me to practice what I preach. Now, I’m just concentrating on acting as if everything is already okay. Because it will be at some point, and I might as well not make myself (and those around me) miserable in the meantime. Amen.